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Support List Guidelines for Mothers...
LIST MODERATORS
List Moderator ~ Ginny King
Email ~ twins1300@charter.net
Backup Moderator ~ Paula Long, founder of Honored Babies and List Owner
Email ~ paula@honoredbabies.org
You may receive administrative notices on the list by either of us (subject line will start with "ADMIN"), but please contact only Ginny for administrative and list questions. Thank you.
FOCUS
The Honored Babies List for Mothers is an online support
group for women only who have experienced the death of their babies. You are free to
join no matter how your baby died, including miscarriage, ectopic pregnancy, stillbirth,
neonatal death, infancy death, and/or pregnancy termination (including abortion).
This list's focus is to provide a safe environment where moms can share their feelings and their journeys after the death of their babies. Because this is a support environment, the
exchange of experiences and the offering of support is encouraged. Of upmost importance is
that this list provide a safe place for moms to share and "vocalize" their inner-most
feelings without fear of harrassment, judgment, blame, guilt, or silencing.
Because of the subject of the list, there will be conversation about our experiences,
journeys, and grief. Please feel free to share all that you desire, including any support
resources. Be sure to take a look at the Resource Center on this site, and if you have a
Memorial web site for your baby or a resource site, please be sure to add your site in the
appropriate area.
Please be respectful of those whose experiences differ from yours. Above all, write with
kindness and compassion when offering your support. Because we are all in different places in
our journeys, please be sensitive to others. We all have the right to ask anything we'd
like (within the focus of this list), and just as importantly, no one is required to answer
or discuss anything they don't want to. If you become uncomfortable with a topic, your
delete key is readily available.
THE ENTRY DOOR'S SIGN...
Apologies for expressing your feelings are not necessary here. Your feelings and experiences are valid, no matter how bizarre, scary, or isolated they may seem to you. We may not walk in one another's shoes, but we walk alongside one another's pain...
COMPLETELY OFF TOPIC and NOT ALLOWED
There will be NO discussion of your personal current pregnancy or your attempt at TTC (Trying To Conceive). The reason is that this list is a safe place moms can come without having other's pregnancies or conceiving issues placed right before them.
You may, of course, send announcements of pregnancies and births to list members with whom you are in a personal relationship with and with whom you know would like to hear your news via off-list email or other form of communication. Pregnancy and birth announcements are NOT to be made on this list. This does not mean you cannot discuss other people's pregnancies (i.e., sister, neighbor, cousin...) and how it makes you feel or your pregnancies prior to and including your baby(ies) who died.
If a member violates this, they will be notified privately of this guideline and asked to stop the discussion. If a member continues the discussion, she will be unsubscribed.
If you are or become pregnant or wish to discuss TTC, there is a breakaway list (HBL-PAL: Pregnancy After Loss) where you can discuss these issues freely. Please visit the main support page for more information.
TONE and CONTENT
- Flaming (name-calling or making accusations) will not be tolerated on this list.
- This list is not based in any one religious belief, spiritual belief, or cultural or lifestyle philosophy; therefore, please refrain from making assumptions about this issue. Simple respect will do well.
- You may not, without the writer's consent, forward or share with anyone, emails
from this list. If you'd like to do so, you must obtain consent from the owner of the email.
Failure to do so is copyright violation as well as a huge violation of trust.
- If you find someone's post offensive, please let the List Moderator know via email.
If messages appear that are blantent violations of the above or are blanently hurtful or
offensive, the first action will be to first ask that the discussion be stopped. If it is not,
the List Moderators reserve the right to unsubscribe the appropriate list member(s).
GETTING STARTED...
Feel free to introduce yourself to the other list members once you've begun to receive list email; however, you are not obligated to participate. You can, of course, read for a while and introduce yourself later. Please try not to feel offended if you post emails to the list that do not get response. You can resend your original note (perhaps try a different subject heading) or wait to see if you get a response. If you feel you need an immediate response, please say so in your note.
Instructions on how to utilize Yahoo's features will be sent to you upon your being subscribed to the list.
From time to time, we will find it necessary to send administrative or otherwise important
information to the list as a whole. All emails of that nature will be prefaced with the word
"ADMIN". Please read these notes as soon as possible as they may contain information necessary or useful.
Your email (message) will be received by a minimum of 100 women, so please:
- Do not send trivial responses to the list such as I was wondering that, too.,
Thanks., or I appreciate your response. These should be sent privately.
- When responding, be sure to quote enough of the original post to keep the context for those
who haven't read the original or may not be sure to whom you are responding.
- Change the subject header if you are changing the topic. This is important so that
members have the option of reading emails based on their subject. If you are receiving your
list email in digest version, please try to be especially aware of subject headings.
- Please do not type in all capital letters for two reasons: 1) it is very hard to read, and 2) in the Internet realm, it indicates yelling.
- If forwarding an email (i.e., poetry), remove all forwarding headers before sending it to the list.
- Do not post virus warnings! To read about virus hoaxes, here's a web site that may interest
you: www.symantec.com/avcenter/hoax.html.
- Do not post urban legends! Here is a web site where you can read about these tales:
www.snopes.com.
HOW TO ADD OR CHANGE YOUR SUBSCRIBING EMAIL ADDRESS...
On the main support page, you'll find a link to add another email address (so you can send notes from two locations; be sure to turn off mail delivery for one of them) or to change your email address.
COMMON ABBREVIATIONS
DH/DD/DS = Darling or Darn Husband...Daughter...Son
MIL/SIL/DIL = Mother...Son...Daugher In Law
BTW = By The Way
FAQ = Frequently Asked Question
HTH = Hope This Helps
IMO = In My Opinion
IRL = In Real Life
JTLYK = Just To Let You Know
LMK = Let Me Know
OTTOMH = Off The Top Of My Head
PITA = Pain In The "Backside"
SO = Significant Other
YMMV = Your Mileage May Vary (your experience may be different)
KWIM = Know What I Mean?
LOL = Laugh(ing) Out Loud
LMAO = Laughing My "Backside" Off
ROFL = Rolling On Floor Laughing
ADDITIONAL INFORMATION
Although we hope it will never happen, if we discover someone on the list under false pretenses, they will be unsubscribed immediately.
List archives are for member viewing only.
~Ginny King, List Moderator
and
~Paula Long, List Owner and Backup Moderator
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Support List Guidelines for Grandmothers...
LIST MODERATOR
List Moderator ~ Paula Long
Email ~ paula@honoredbabies.org
I will not be an active participate on this list so that you may feel safe in posting. However,
I will, from time to time, drop in and read list postings to ensure all is running smoothly.
FOCUS
The Honored Babies List for Grandmothers is an online support group for women only who have experienced the death of their grandbabies. You are free to join no matter how your grandbaby died, including miscarriage, ectopic pregnancy, stillbirth, neonata death, infancy death, and/or pregnancy termination (including abortion).
This list's focus is to provide a safe environment where grandmothers can share their feelings
and their journeys after the death of their grandbabies. Because this is a support environment,
the exchange of experiences and the offering of support is encouraged. Of upmost importance
is that this list provide a safe place for grandmothers to share and "vocalize" their
inner-most feelings without fear of harrassment, judgment, blame, guilt, or
silencing.
Because of the subject of the list, there will be conversation about your experiences,
journeys, and grief. Please feel free to share all that you desire, including any support
resources. Be sure to take a look at the Resource Center on this site, and if you have a
Memorial web site for your grandbaby or a resource site, please be sure to add your site in
the appropriate area.
Please be respectful of those whose experiences differ from yours. Above all, write with
kindness and compassion when offering your support. Because you are all in different places in
our journeys, please be sensitive to others. You all have the right to ask anything you'd
like (within the focus of this list), and just as importantly, no one is required to answer
or discuss anything they don't want to. If you become uncomfortable with a topic, your
delete key is readily available.
THE ENTRY DOOR'S SIGN...
Apologies for expressing your feelings are not necessary here. Your feelings and experiences are valid, no matter how bizarre, scary, or isolated they may seem to you. We may not walk in one another's shoes, but we walk alongside one another's pain...
TONE and CONTENT
- Flaming (name-calling or making accusations) will not be tolerated on this list.
- This list is not based in any one religious belief, spiritual belief, or cultural or lifestyle philosophy; therefore, please refrain from making assumptions about this issue. Simple respect will do well.
- You may not, without the writer's consent, forward or share with anyone, emails
from this list. If you'd like to do so, you must obtain consent from the owner of the email.
Failure to do so is copyright violation as well as a huge violation of trust.
- If you find someone's post offensive, please let the List Moderator know via email.
If messages appear that are blantent violations of the above or are blanently hurtful or
offensive, a list moderator will first ask that the discussion be stopped. If it is not,
the appropriate list member(s) will be unsubscribed.
GETTING STARTED...
Feel free to introduce yourself to the other list members once you've begun to receive list email; however, you are not obligated to participate. You can, of course, read for a while and introduce yourself later. Please try not to feel offended if you post emails to the list that do not get response. You can resend your original note (perhaps try a different subject heading) or wait to see if you get a response. If you feel you need an immediate response, please say so in your note.
Instructions on how to utilize Yahoo! Group's features will be sent to you upon your being subscribed to the list.
From time to time, we will find it necessary to send administrative or otherwise important
information to the list as a whole. All emails of that nature will be prefaced with the word
"ADMIN". Please read these notes as soon as possible as they may contain information necessary or useful.
Your email (message) will be received by many women, so please:
- Do not send trivial responses to the list such as I was wondering that, too.,
Thanks., or I appreciate your response. These should be sent privately.
- When responding, be sure to quote enough of the original post to keep the context for those
who haven't read the original or may not be sure to whom you are responding.
- Change the subject header if you are changing the topic. This is important so that
members have the option of reading emails based on their subject. If you are receiving your
list email in digest version, please try to be especially aware of subject headings.
- Please do not type in all capital letters for two reasons: 1) it is very hard to read, and 2) in the Internet realm, it indicates yelling.
- If forwarding an email (i.e., poetry), remove all forwarding headers before sending it to the list.
- Do not post virus warnings! To read about virus hoaxes, here's a web site that may interest
you: www.symantec.com/avcenter/hoax.html.
- Do not post urban legends! Here is a web site where you can read about these tales:
www.snopes.com.
HOW TO ADD OR CHANGE YOUR SUBSCRIBING EMAIL ADDRESS...
You can do that from within Yahoo! Groups. See list emails (in the footer) for more information on how to manage your Yahoo! Group subscription(s).
COMMON ABBREVIATIONS
DH/DD/DS = Darling or Darn Husband...Daughter...Son
MIL/SIL/DIL = Mother...Son...Daugher In Law
BTW = By The Way
FAQ = Frequently Asked Question
HTH = Hope This Helps
IMO = In My Opinion
IRL = In Real Life
JTLYK = Just To Let You Know
LMK = Let Me Know
OTTOMH = Off The Top Of My Head
PITA = Pain In The "Backside"
SO = Significant Other
YMMV = Your Mileage May Vary (your experience may be different)
KWIM = Know What I Mean?
LOL = Laugh(ing) Out Loud
LMAO = Laughing My "Backside" Off
ROFL = Rolling On Floor Laughing
ADDITIONAL INFORMATION
Although I hope it will never happen, if it's discovered that someone is on the list under false pretenses, they will be unsubscribed immediately.
List archives are for member viewing only.
~Paula Long, List Owner & Moderator
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